Entity userBareJid = user.getBareJID();
Entity contactBareJid = contact.getBareJID();
relayStanza(contact, stanza, sessionContext);
RosterItem rosterItem = null;
try {
rosterItem = rosterManager.getContact(userBareJid, contactBareJid);
} catch (RosterException e) {
e.printStackTrace();
throw new RuntimeException(e);