mn = XmlUtils.findChild(mem,"PassportName");
String email = XmlUtils.getText(mn);
ArrayList<MsnContactPending> pendingList =
((AbstractMessenger)session.getMessenger()).getPendingList();
pendingList.add(new
MsnContactPending(Email.parseStr(email),name,joinedDate));
((AbstractMessenger) session.getMessenger())
.fireContactAddedMe(session.getMessenger().getPendingList()
.toArray(new MsnContactPending[] {}));